Attracting Women Using The Right Words

Wednesday, February 24th, 2010

The art of picking up a girl is really more of a technical science in the sense that it requires a lot of research and a lot of knowledge into the behavioural science of a woman. One thing that most men will admit readily is that they have no idea how a woman thinks and they blame this on their emotional and physiological make up and how different they are from men. Well, this is true to some extents, but research has shown that how a woman thinks is quite similar to how men think. It is because men over think the situation and think that women will respond to a certain set way are one of the methods that keeps derailing their seduction efforts.

Men have to understand that women respond in a certain way but their initial reactions are quite similar to how men would react. If a man were to see a woman staring at them all night long, they would be quite uncomfortable, especially if the woman was just average looking or if they were not attractive at all. Now place this logic in the shoes of a woman, who undoubtly because of their ability to choose, has somewhat higher standards when it comes to visual stimulation. Because also of the fact that they get attention most of the time from men, they are often guarded and need to be broken down before they can be seduced. One of the proven ways to do this is by the use of subliminal techniques like the use of words. Women respond to words a lot more then men and the often dissect what people say more than the rougher gender.

The techniques to get you to seduce a woman is often a mixture of riveted attention, careful phrases, body language and the use of compliments. Compliments are the one powerful tool that men either use too much of or none at all. If you do not compliment a woman, she will start to feel a little insecure about her appearance and then quickly change to slight indignation as she realises that you are only interested in one thing. Compliment her apparel, how she dresses, her voice and her hair – these are the proven hot spots where women like to be complemented on because they place a lot of effort in these areas.

Also, try and keep your voice to a deep baritone, meaning keep it low. Not only is using the right words important it is also important to keep a soft approach when talking to a girl. If she leans over to hear you better, it is always a good thing as it means that she is actually interested in what you are saying. You know you are using the right combination of words when she initiates physical contact with you – a sure sign that she is warming up to you. The power of words when seducing a woman is rightly one of the most important things you need to have at your disposal.

Dating direct – What a woman really wants

Friday, February 5th, 2010

This article goes out to the guys out there who sometimes
just have no idea what a woman wants.Friends or mates
would tell you, Well take it from a woman – there are many
things we want but in actual fact, we are not as demanding
as you take us to be. In fact, what we want are pretty
basic rules and principles that we apply to every guy we
go on a date with. Read some more if you boys want to know
some dating direct tips to impress any girl that you meet.

First of all, we really, really respect when a man is
courteous. Women are not walking feminists all the time.
Yes, we respect equality but in the end of the day, we are
women who also want to be pampered.

Giving up a seat, opening the door for us or something as
simple as pulling out our chair will get you plenty of
brownie points when you are on a date with a woman. We
don’t expect you to bend yourself backward treating us
like a princess, but a little care and a touch of
gentlemanliness is something many women, including me,
find extremely charming to behold. I think one of the most
important things that a woman really wants is a guy to be
himself on the first date. We know that you are trying to
impress but going to far and acting like someone that you
are not really spoils it for us. It tells us that you are
not sincere and have to put on an act for us to like. It
also seems like you have a low opinion of women who only
respond to one type of guy. Not all of us are into the
James Bond, Brad Pitt, debonair and charming gentlemen
stereotype.

There are so many types of personalities out there that
can be just as appealing. It also makes us think twice
about asking you out on a second date because then we will
be just expecting for the act to drop of and the real you
to come out – something that might not be a pleasant
experience for any woman to contemplate. We like
sincerity. We can sense it in the way you smile, the way
you talk and how you conduct yourself on a date. It just
shines right through and sometimes even basic honesty like
that can be extremely attractive to us. Also, don’t be so
guarded about your life. As you might know already, we
women love to talk not because we like to gossip but
because we thrive on information and sometimes we use what
you are all about to try and see whether we can fit
ourselves in the picture of your life, your family and
our friends.

Be as open as you can be with a woman on the first date
but that also comes with limits. With these simple steps
to follow, you just might be able get to that second,
third and who knows – you might find someone you like.

Dating direct, perhaps with friends or mates or any other
site, dating right is the main thing to keep in mind – now
you know what a woman really wants.

Dating for parents - its not too late to start

Friday, January 29th, 2010

Here at friends or mates we say Nobody is too old for dating, that is the truth that has been liberating ‘young at heart’ singles for the past decade or so. If you are a single parent and feeling lonely, then there should be nothing stopping you from going out there and finding a partner for life. Dating for parents should not even be a category; love and life are subjects, which should not be constrained by the boundaries of age - or any restrictions.

Everyone and anyone, regardless or their age or orientation should be able to date. Now I know saying this is one thing, but there are many people have decided that their age, and the fact that they have been hurt and left alone once, makes them eligible for a life of non-dating. You may have fear in your heart or you may just be shy, unwilling to venture out on to open field of life’s modern dating scenes. That is common. Many single parents out there are not willing to try their hand at love again, especially when they have been stung by disappointment. Also, there is a problem when these parents have young kids to take care of and have to balance their time between work and home. Not all of us can afford to hire a baby sitter, and parents will want to spend time with their children – especially when they have to work the entire day. Now there are two problems that parents have to tackle with, and believe me having a young child to take care of will take away a lot of your time.

So how can parents somehow, from the comfort of their home, or work, work on finding friendship or more? How can they do that from a safe distance, which will all but negate whatever fear, or shyness they may have, allowing them to build up their confidence and trust, and maybe initiate contact when they feel they are ready.

All this has been made possible with the advent of the internet. Now everyone with these problems have the ability to slowly build up relationships and find people they can connect with online. Whether or not you are shy, have no time to date or simply are unwilling , now you have the perfect medium to put all those problems to rest and tentatively go out and start dating again. With internet dating, you can tailor make your search for someone with similar interests, you can do it from the comfort of your home or office, or even your pda through emails and messages. If you are shy you can use the safe distance and security the internet gives you to slowly build that bravery you need to overcome fears and start forging new relationships. The internet is truly a magic wand, which has made dating for parents more than possible, and they can start dating whenever they want and however they want. Those days of being a single parent are surely numbered, so take a look in friends or mates for that other parent, just maybe you will be lucky today

Classifieds dating? Overcome those jitters.

Thursday, January 21st, 2010

You are just about to go on a at with someone you met on classifieds dating and usually in this case, the things you know about this person is what you have been communicating with them online and through their profile. Whatever the case, you know enough to agree to a date because you guys have found a common ground and similar interests. Also, some chemistry was there when you talked on the phone. So why not?

What do you have to lose? Suddenly you get a bout of nervousness? What if you don’t look like the picture on your profile? What if the other person notices your flaws? What if you spoil the whole night by saying something stupid? Now that is one of the ways you can stop those jitters on the first date. Stop asking yourself these questions. They just pile on the self-doubt and will make you a wreck way before you even meet the date of your dreams. Dig down and reach for some confidence. The best way to do this is not to evaluate yourself so low. Have some self-esteem and don’t worry, the other person may be thinking the same thing. Nobody is out to find perfection, but just partnership and maybe even love.

If you set your sights too high, you are more likely to get disappointed and the reverse is also true. So just, relax and concentrate on the date at hand. The more you are critical of yourself, the more likely that you will stumble and make a mistake that you should not have in the first place. Also, when you do meet your date, don’t put too much coin in the piggy bank. This is supposed to be the first date, not a marriage proposal. We at Friends or mates say to Relax and just concentrate on having as much fun as possible. The more relaxed and natural you are, the more likely that the date will go smoothly and your jitters will go away. You don’t have to learn jokes, or jot down questions to ask or even write down topics for discussion just in case conversation runs cold. You have to be as natural as possible and the best way to do that is to be yourself.

This is why your date decided to meet you in the first place, because they liked the personality they saw on the profile, they read in your messages and they heard in your voice over the phone. This is exactly the person they should be meeting and talking to on the date itself. Conversation is the best way to ease those jitters so just talk about yourself and listen to the other date. Questions will come up naturally and hey, you are out in the wild world – topics of interest or something peculiar will definitely pass by – trust me, you will have plenty of things to talk about. In the end of the day, it is just a date and although it may be classifieds dating, it is still a meeting of two people who want to find a partner in life. In the wise words of many famous people – just wing it. Whatever vehicle you use friends or mates wishes you the best of luck.

Thursday, January 21st, 2010

Beginners guide to online dating services

Monday, January 11th, 2010

You are lonely, you don’t have the time or you just can’t find the right person with speed dating services or going to clubs with your friends. I understand your problem because I was in the same predicament for many years. The problem with the real world is that most people tend to rush into things, often at the first things they see and the physical connection – a feature of the real world – undermines the emotional connection we should all feel before anyone jumps into a relationship with anyone else. We cant help it, we are ruled by carnal desires just as much as any animal out there, and this causes us to be led into pathways of mistakes and disappointments in our love lives.

Someone told me a long time ago about online dating services and yes, I was sceptical at first. I heard a lot of bad things about dating online, and there have been many horror stories about people meeting stalkers or psychos online. Things have changed. Structured and proper dating services do a lot of checks on their members and there are levels of security that they maintain within the website. There are also plenty of disclaimers in the website and some of them register with local law enforcement agencies to give that extra level of protection. But that’s just salt for flavour. It is down to you, you and you alone can make online dating successful. You have to want to find that special person online, you have to want to put in the extra work to find out all you can about your possible matches and work towards communication.

Communication is the most important thing before and after a relationship. And the internet is the ultimate platform of communication. There is a level of interactivity on the internet that closely mimics real life – with some extra added advantages. The friends or mates platform ensures that fears, doubts and even insecurities are wiped out – at least for a moment so that lines of dialogue can open and anyone can engage another person and maybe even connect with them on an emotional level. Who knows how far it can go from there? Who knows just who you might meet. Don’t look at online dating as the last chance for you to meet your special someone, look at it as an opportunity to rekindle your love life, put some excitement back into your days and nights and make you look forward to something when you wake up each and every morning.

This is the true beginners guide to online free dating – approach it with an open heart and an open mind. Think positive and look out for the gem that could put the light back into your life. Thousands of people all over the world have found perfect happiness with the Friends or mates model online dating site and you could be one of them. If you at any point of your life considered giving it a try I would say just go for it – who knows, there could be wedding bells in the near future.

5 Tips To Fix Your Girl's Broken Heart

Saturday, January 2nd, 2010

Relationships are very volatile. They sometimes can be great and lead to lives of bliss and happiness and they can also go very wrong for some others, which more often than not, will lead to a broken heart. Like that song by Nazareth, love can sometimes hurt, but it doesn’t always have to be that way. There ways to mend a broken heart, especially when it is your girlfriend who is suffering inside. The road to recovery can sometimes be long and hard, but you can play an active part in fixing this; you can fix your girl’s broken heart.

The path to healing will often come from forgiving one another, so the best way is to look at the past and bury the past. Accept the fact that neither of you are perfect and start talking to one another again.Just be friends and mates, Sometimes starting from scratch is one of the best ways. It is a clean slate, a new chapter in your lives and the best thing about it is that you both know that the potential for there to be love and happiness is already there – after all, you guys had already experienced it before. This is a great method of healing that works every time.

Think about taking some time apart from one another. We all know that this period of time can be crazy. There will be jealous fits, moments of denial. Someone will get angry and say the same thing. Emotions need time to be cooled off, so take some time to yourself and let her be in her own space for a while. After a while, the anger will fade and the good memories will return. She might even forget why she was so angry in the first place and her pain might be replaced with a need to see you again.

Maybe it is your fault. Evaluate who you are as a person and think about what led to this. If you have to improve, if you have to step up, then show her and be sincere about it. Sincerity shows like a ray of light form a darkened room and when she sees you are being sincere, the pain will slowly go away.

Be there for her. Sometimes women do not and cannot say the words that will let you back in her life, so you have to watch out for the signs. After all, she is hurt and since you were the object of it, it is up to you to take the initiative sometimes. But remember, do not force yourself on her, it has to be natural.

Last but certainly not least, work at it. Here at friends or mates we believe If you truly love her, no matter what has happened, then you should work at it. Women can be emotionally strong, but they can also be unable to cope with pain, just like men. Work at it. You will be rejected the first few times, but effort will certainly pay dividends. Soon, you will be holding her in your arms, and a smile will replace that broken heart.

5 Great Love Tactics To Make Your Girl Swoon

Wednesday, December 30th, 2009

This article will discuss 5 great love tactics to make your girl swoon and to keep the flame burning hotter and higher. With these simple approaches to love, you will not only be able to swoon your woman, but keep her for life.

It is the little things that count sometimes, and if you buy her a tiny present or write her something nice once in a while, these are some sure fire ways to make her swoon for you. Women are all about the tiny details and they love the idea of being on their man’s mind every minute of the day. While this may be a bit idealist in thinking, do not make the mistake of just assuming that everything is fine. After all, buying her a small tee shirt or something she likes to eat once in a while is really a very inexpensive way to get her to fall more and more in love with you. Even if she does not do the same thing for you, you should do it anyway.Here at friends or mates we think You will be more appreciated that way and in the end, you might actually guilt her to do something special for you.

Make something for her. Resist the temptation of simply going to a shop and buying something. This activates something very primal in her when she knows that you went to the trouble to either cook something, compile a video tape or even paint something for her. The thought behind these gifts are more priceless than even the most previous jewels to women and this could also be the solution when you are caught with a broken bank account on valentines day or even her birthday.

Talk to her and ask about her day. Women love to talk, we all should know that by now and they love to feel like they are the centre of your existence and you are genuinely concerned about their day. Don’t just grunt in front of the television, timing your grunts to when her stories stop while one hand is on the remote and one hand is on a beer. Actually listen to her.

Tell her how beautiful she looks everyday. Do not over do it because like even the most potent drug, its effects will wear off once you use it too much. Surprise her with praises and compliments and text her when you are at work of how much you like to see her. Get graphic sometimes. Women love to feel wanted,
friends or mates have countless stories highlighting this topic.

Last but not least, make her laugh and make yourself a source of laughter and happiness. The way to a woman’s heart is sometimes through her lungs and the harder she laughs the more she will treasure you. Don’t be a jester but be a joker sometimes and be a serious lover another. Confuse her with different personalities and she wont know what to expect, putting her on the edge of her seat in the relationship.

Secret of a Successful Dating: A Must Read

Wednesday, December 23rd, 2009

Are you a lonely heart scouting around for new buddies? Are you completely clueless about how to gain new buddies in your life? Do all your attempts to strike up a friendship with new people always fall flat on their faces? Well, you are not alone, for there are many lonely hearts and single souls out there in the big bad world who just can’t figure out how to get good friends whom they can date.

It is for the express help of these clueless cupids that we have come up with the unique dating site called Friends or Mates.com – a free internet dating site or a free friendship site that provides you with an enriching online dating experience.
You just have to sign up, fill out the particulars and create a peppy and jazzy profile that will carry the stamp of your personality, individuality and witty outlook. Then you have to enhance your profile through the addition of a few wacky and interesting pictures of yours that will make your profile more appealing to viewers.

And in a few days you will be ready to rock for you will start getting countless friend requests from members of both sexes, you can add these people to your friend list if you like or turn down their friend request if you don’t like their profiles.
And you can scrap to your heart’s content and leave behind as many comments in your online buddies’ scrapbook as you want to.

You can exchange smileys, pictures, share photos and messages, talk through GTalk or yahoo messenger services – the fun quotient is just endless. You can do whatever you want to with your new found online buddies, stopping short of illegitimate or indecent activities.

And there have been quite a few lucky chaps who acquired their current partners through a friendship website or through free dating service online. In order to attract a large number of online buddies you must project yourself as a personality that is well rounded and who possesses diverse interests and tastes. The golden rule of becoming popular in an online friendship site or in free dating sites online is to be yourself and you can never afford to be boring.

When you compare friendship dating with romantic dating, you will find that the former boasts of quite a few pros and plus points over the latter. In a friendship site, you can make new friends and get to know them better for a long period of time, and who doesn’t know that friendship comes with no strings attached! Just as you are being yourself, similarly your friend of the opposite sex is also being herself, without having to succumb to the pressure of living up to your expectations.

Meet New Friends Waiting for You at a Free Friendship Dating Site

Saturday, December 12th, 2009

For some people life comes to a halt if their friends do not respond to their calls for companionship. For others, enjoying a rocking life means spending those good moments with good buddies who make a party or a get together or a simple hanging out session more fun. Most individuals who love to socialise and chill out with their gang of buddies cannot imagine a life without friends. For them a friend is someone who brings meaning into their lives.

When you break up with your boyfriend/girlfriend or with your spouse, or you end up having a nasty fight with your partner, the first people you share your sorrow with are your close group of friends. When your parents scold you for some trivial reason or your class mates make you feel bad by making you the victim of your politics, you turn to your best friend for help and support.

Do you think a picnic or a night out in the town would be as colourful if you didn’t tag your friends along?

Well, to be very honest, some people who are extreme social creatures find it difficult to survive on earth without friends and a heavy dose of text messaging or group messaging to friends provides fodder for their living. But these are all incidents and activities that you can continue with till your college or university life.

Once you grow up, your life changes, you get into a job and are bound by duties and responsibilities. You get segregated from friends and your whole friends’ gang drifts apart with time. Earlier, you perhaps used to meet up with your buddies and hang out every single day or after every few days.

But once you join office and become a working individual, you hardly ever find the time to call your buddies scattered across the globe and meeting up even once a year becomes a luxury too hard to afford. Fret not, my pal, because this is the way of the world and this is a way of life.

But you can kill your loneliness and make new friends or even come across your old buddies through friendship dating services or friendship website which allow you to make friends online free. You need not worry about how to make friends online for friendship dating sites are fast catching on the frenzy of people.

When you sign up for a free friendship site, you get to meet men online or meet ladies online and you can indulge in local dating or romantic dating or speed dating as you wish. A truly worthy and reliable friendship site that I can recommend to you is Friends or Mates.com. But there are several others as well.